[owmmusic]

I was in a similar situation once. Somebody advised me that instead of fighting, just wait till a lot of people are around, and walk up and just kiss him. He won't know how to react, and everyone else will know you did it as a joke so it won't matter. I never did that, but I always thought it would be funny. Now I tell everyone that.

[strumminsix]

I live by the mantra of only fight when you have to.

However bullies and schools present unique predicaments none of which face me today.

In HS I avoided them, in college I'd be in their face and fighting, now I ignore them.

Truthfully, none are easy and IMO there is no best.

But I will say this... You may be catching flack for you buddy. And I would *never* fight to protect a male friend.

[krzykat]

the best defense is a good offense. if you verbally demean this guy then he has no offense. Bullies are just looking for attention so rip into his character. 9 times out of 10 they will hang thier head and not know what to say because they do not excpect anyone to talk back to them

[Shooster]

" I don't want a pickle,
jus wanna ride my motor-cickle."



Sorry, couldn't resist.

[Django]

I thought about this and about the way many of us older guys offered our histories as advice in an earlier thread and one thing sticks out. It is a very different world now. What worked for me then in many cases would be impossible now. We related stories of the screw ups we did and yet prevailed to go on to live good lives, but I just don't know if that margin of error exists now. One thing I do know is you don't want to have any record of violent activity following you through life.

[krzykat]

either way you are going to be taking a chance.
1) this guy is goig to do it till you graduate or he decides to stop

2) you fight , get susspended and he stops

3) you fight, get your ass kicked and it continues

4) you cut him down to size with your intellect and it stops or doesn't

the best thing to do is be true to the person you want to be

[gooseberry]

Punching someone only hurts your hand, and if your hand hurts you can't play guitar, so it's a waste of time. Give $20 to a girl in school who gets around and tell her to spread a rumor about him having a small dick and being a lousy fuck. It'll work and people will start picking on him.

[Oscillation]

the way i see it you have three options.

1. The next time he throws a ball at you you need to attack him with great savagery, leaping over desks, and throttling him to the point of hypoxic brain damage.

2. Ignore him

3. Ask him why he is being such a dick to you, and explain to him that you don't want any problems and would just like to be able to go about your day without having small projectiles hurled at you.

[LazyLightnin]

verbal barrage, hit em with everything you got. if he gets in your face stand up to him, dont fight just stand up. stare back at the fucker, let him know your done playin. im not a big dude and ive had confrontations. i got my ass kicked once in 9th grade, i didnt know what to do and i just panicked. i was too concerned with what all the other kids would think, or see. thats whats messin you up, forget about that crap, even if you get punched out youll earn a ton of respect for standing up for yourself. you'll feel better about yourself and you'll grow up a little more, word will get around that your "that kid" that did what everyone else was too big a wuss to do. if you get a bruise, wear it with pride, but always always always stand up for yourself, even if you have to take lumps. noones gonna remember that you lost the fight. youll be the kid that stood up to the biggest turd sandwhich in school. It'll say TONS about your character. tell the fucker to eat a dick and see what happens.

i had to do it, i had no choice. this dude was gonna break me in half. id had my ass kicked once, and i didnt like it. i let my emotions get the best of me and i choked! i got romped on by a giant douche. i could tell the whole story but basically was dealing with this guy that would say shit. id say shit back and he would threaten me, then id back down. one day i was feelin saucey, i just couldnt let that happen again, for myself and my rep
so this dude brings some shit in my face in the hall. i cant remember what i said to him but his jaw hit the floor he come up to me and we were chest to chest. he pushed me and i pushed him back. then he swung, i ducked and gottem with a haymaker right under the chin - with everything i had. almost knocked him off his feet. it stunned him, he couldnt beleive it, and everyones watching! i threw up my dukes and waited for him to retaliate - still he couldnt beleive it, he said a few things about me bein a pu$$y "f@gg0t" and came at me with his right hand. i moved myself just at the correct time, maybe 6 inches to the right, and just threw everything i had straight into his nose. and BAM! blood splattered everywhere. now he's hurt, and he dont care about the crowd. thats when the teachers came in and broke it up. i didnt even talk smack or nuthin when he was bleedin, i just stood there with this look on my face, not of rage but of serenity. i had just passed through one of lifes toughest lessons, and it couldnt have worked out better.

NOONE said anything bad to me or about me after that. noone picked a fight, no rumors, none of his friends comin after me, nuthin. all i got was piece of mind and a new belief in myself that i could accomplish anything no matter how crazy or tough or hard it was. i mean my hand was crippled for like 2 weeks. the physical pain went away, but what it did for me - ,and him, psycologically stays with me even today.

avoid violence at ALL costs, but always always always always always always stand up for yourself

[acidrain30005]

Hey, thanks a lot for responding, guys. I didn't get in a fight today and I'm not going to school tomorrow. I can't say he won't bother me, but if he does, I won't throw the first punch. I wasn't planning on throwing the first punch anyway. My plan was to go to him if he did something to me and tell him how much of a fucking child he is. The thing is, though, he's an Asian kid who thinks he's Black. Baggy jeans, etc. He has a big friend who could definetly kick my ass. He only bothers me when his friend's around. So if the one kid hit me and I hit him back, he'd get his friend's help. And my friend wouldn't help much. So that's where I'm really up shit creek.

[Zolzar]

I'd ignore the guy in school and simply show up at his house one evening and call him out for a fight there in front of his parents. He'll have none of his "cool friends" there to show off in front of and will most likely be scared like the pussy he really is. I've done it....it works....problem solved.

[strumminsix]

Nice advice, Zolzar!!! Love it!

Seriously, what's with the not throwing the first punch shit?!

If I can't walk away I'm throwing the first, second, third, etc, and not giving the other dude a chance.

[prephippie]

The thing is, though, he's an Asian kid who thinks he's Black. Baggy jeans, etc. He has a big friend who could definetly kick my ass. He only bothers me when his friend's around. So if the one kid hit me and I hit him back, he'd get his friend's help. And my friend wouldn't help much. So that's where I'm really up shit creek.

Wait 'till they're both together and giving you shit, then say something like, "How come you only pick on me when your boyfriend is around? Are you trying to impress him or are you just too much of a pussy to take me on alone?" (Make sure other people are around.) Then he can't really get his friend to help because that would just reinforce what you said.

If it does come to blows...a quick jab to the windpipe will put anyone out of commission for a few precious seconds. Then you can get in some good shots.

[bobbybobbob]

Okay young fella, here is the definite plan:

Your gonna need about 10 hits of acid for this to work.

When he is eating lunch, have your friend go up and distract him. While he isn't looking, switch his drink with an identical drink laced with 10 hits of acid. Wait about an hour to an hour and a half. Then... this is where the fun starts. When he's tripping balls, go up to him and say.. "DUDE, YOUR PENIS! IT JUST RAN AWAY!" And keep convincing him that his penis is running around the hallway. He will flip out because he lost his penis, and he will run around trying to recapture it. Not only will he embrass him self in front of everyone, he will also have the worst 8 hours of his life.

Trust me, it will work. Good Luck!

[dre]

Nice advice, Zolzar!!! Love it!

Seriously, what's with the not throwing the first punch shit?!

If I can't walk away I'm throwing the first, second, third, etc, and not giving the other dude a chance.

yea I agree, pretty much every altercation that I knew was gonna come to blows I made sure to get first shot and right on the honker.. gets their eyes good and watery and likely a bloody face for the rest of the fight. lots of times bullies have never even been in a real fight and freeze from the shock of getting slammed.

the only thing about showing up at his house is that his parents may call the cops but that embarasses him pretty bad.. or he may come out with a bat or his brother/dad in tow.. kinda risky.
once in highschool I caught a few kids trying to egg my house and fuck up my car and I came out with a c02 pellet gun and popped a couple in the ass as they ran lol..