So, I have a jam group that is kind of open. I guy joined it recently, and i have some issues with him. The most important one being that he is disingenuous. He's seems like he's always trying to prove he belongs. The fact is that he's a decent player and he has plenty of musical knowledge, so there is absolutely no reason for him to do what he does. So what is it that he does?
The first time he and I got together, the first song I chose was Friend Of The Devil. He said he had never heard it before. The first time he came to one of the group jams, we again played FOTD. He responded that again, it was a song he did not know, completely forgetting it from when we played it. Yet, when I make the comment about being a huge fan of the Dead, he jumps right in with, "oh yeah, me too". Same thing happened when i mentioned being a hard core Zappa fan. I would bet my entire guitar collection he can't name 5 songs by FZ (hey, a couple made it on the radio....maybe he knows Dancin Fool and Valley Girl). Same thing again with Yes.
I don't ask much, but i expect people to be real, and I know if I call him on it, the truth will come out and he will likely be embarrassed and/or humiliated. I don't necessarily want that, but I'm having real issues letting this go on.
The first time he and I got together, the first song I chose was Friend Of The Devil. He said he had never heard it before. The first time he came to one of the group jams, we again played FOTD. He responded that again, it was a song he did not know, completely forgetting it from when we played it. Yet, when I make the comment about being a huge fan of the Dead, he jumps right in with, "oh yeah, me too". Same thing happened when i mentioned being a hard core Zappa fan. I would bet my entire guitar collection he can't name 5 songs by FZ (hey, a couple made it on the radio....maybe he knows Dancin Fool and Valley Girl). Same thing again with Yes.
I don't ask much, but i expect people to be real, and I know if I call him on it, the truth will come out and he will likely be embarrassed and/or humiliated. I don't necessarily want that, but I'm having real issues letting this go on.
Ed
First Show - 5/5/77
Last Show - 3/28/93
First Show - 5/5/77
Last Show - 3/28/93