hogan wrote:dude, just move on. project this same situation onto some one you were trying to date. There would be no 2nd date, there shouldn't have been one in this case either.
it doesn't really work like that. This is kind of an open jam that although I started it and I am the organizer, I am not the sole voice. Although I know that the others in the group have similar feelings (at least as they have expressed them to me), the only way to "move on" as you say (I assume you mean to stop playing with him since you referred to no second date) would be to confront this person and tell him he is no longer welcome. The "confronting" of him is what this thread is all about.