Luckily there are like minded people nearly everywhere. Of course there may be more of them in those places you mention, Eugene( in Eugene, you cannot tell the difference if Furthur is in town or not), Burlington (at least three dead bands playing regularly), Boulder (happens to be in a state that legalized weed) Ashville (never been there but I hear its cool).
But there are like minded people nearly everywhere. But the real question is, if you can live in a cool place rather than an uncool place, why would you choose to live in an uncool place? Think about that.
Really, if you are living in an uncool place, think about moving to a cool place. Life is short.
Just my $.02